Is the honeymoon over? Are you living in bliss or do you cry yourself to sleep? Are you tired of fighting about the same things all the time? Does it seem like Mr. Wonderful doesn’t give a damn about you anymore, and that he treats you badly (and it doesn’t seem to bother him)? Does it seem like you’re on a one-way train to Splitsville and you don’t know what to do? Do you feel stuck? Do you ask yourself which is worse, staying in a bad relationship or facing the unknown and taking your chances with fate?
You’re not alone. Many women find themselves in this situation. They’d like to get their relationship back to when they were happy and deeply in love together—but maybe that doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to happen.
I say it’s time for you to turn your situation around. You can make things much better for yourself and your relationship. You have the power!
As long as there is a chance you and your man can work things out and get back to being in love again, you don’t want to blow it by making dumb mistakes. Based on my experience and research, here are the three biggest mistakes women make.
Biggest Mistake #1: Do Nothing. Waiting and hoping for change to come—without making an effort to improve your relationship. Trust me when I tell you, the relationship will not improve all by itself. It’s going to take an effort on both your parts. It’s time to take action! As the woman, you have the power to completely transform the nature of your relationship; but first you have to figure out what you want, and then you have to get his attention.
Biggest Mistake 2: Rely on non-professional advice such as that from your family and friends. It’s actually a good idea to reach out to your support network and use them as a sounding board. This can help you articulate your thoughts and feelings. But, you should not rely on their advice if your relationship is on the rocks. What you and they may not realize is that you have blind spots and there are things going on in your relationship that you may not know about or understand. Compared to a professional, you don’t have the benefit of objectivity and experience helping couples in conflict.
Biggest Mistake 3: Making poor assumptions. We live in a cause and effect world. You might think you understand why your guy does the things he does and treats you the way he treats you… but what if you’re wrong? Even if your logic and reasoning is sound, if your assumptions are wrong you’re still going to come up with the wrong answers.
For example, suppose your guy threatens you to leave the relationship (because he says he’s had enough of your shit). You might assume he’s threatening to leave because he is unhappy and feels he can do better with someone else. But what if the real reason is because he feels emasculated and threatening to leave is the only way he knows how to satisfy his need to feel significant and powerful?
Making poor assumptions and emotional decisions is a recipe for disaster.
I always like to remind people that although pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice. Please don’t waste any more of your precious time and energy suffering over the pain of your relationship. Take action and find out what you can start doing right now so that your relationship gets better (and doesn’t continue to get worse).
I’m willing to bet that you still have all the qualities that attracted your man to you in the first place, and I believe you can make your relationship better than ever. Remember, you have the power! You still have that beautiful light and irresistible feminine essence that attracted him (but you have to make sure it’s switched on).
To find out more about what you can do to improve your relationship right now, I invite you to contact me and schedule a free discovery session. You may also write to me via email or post on our Facebook page. You don’t have to go through this alone. We offer lots of support to help women empower themselves and get back on the Bliss Train. The best days of your life are still in front of you. Be strong. Be happy.